Wanting someone is not the same as loving them.
Attachment says: I love you, so I want you to make me happy.
Genuine love says: I love you, so I want you to be happy. If that includes me, that’s great. If it doesn’t include me, that’s ok; I just want your happiness.
Attachment is like holding very tightly, but genuine love is like holding very gently – nurturing, and allowing things to flow.