Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence

“If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.” – Daniel Goleman

Empathy without humility

“If you aren’t humble, whatever empathy you claim is false and probably results from some arrogance or the desire to control. But true empathy is rooted in humility and the understanding that there are many people with as much to contribute in life as you.” – Anand Mahindra

Three components of empathy: Cognitive, Emotional and Compassionate

Renowned psychologists Daniel Goleman and Paul Ekman have identified three components of empathy: (1) Cognitive, (2) Emotional and (3) Compassionate. The first form is “cognitive empathy” – simply knowing how the other person feels and what they might be thinking. Sometimes called perspective-taking. However, to truly connect with someone, you need to share their feelings. …

Empathy vs. sympathy

Empathy the ability to understand another person’s thoughts and feelings in a situation from their point of view, rather than your own. It differs from sympathy, where one is affected by the thoughts and feelings of another but maintains an emotional distance. This short illustrated video from Brené Brown helps to illustrate the difference. Dr. …

Wanting someone is not the same as loving them

Wanting someone is not the same as loving them. Attachment says: I love you, so I want you to make me happy. Genuine love says: I love you, so I want you to be happy. If that includes me, that’s great. If it doesn’t include me, that’s ok; I just want your happiness. Attachment is …